Episode 51 - Barella Roberson: Black Women, Sensual Wellness & Radical Self-Love

In this soul-stirring conversation, Dr. Kristian H. and Barella Roberson, founderhhhd of Black Alchemy, explore what it means for Black women to reclaim their pleasure, power, and peace. They dive deep into the roots of why sex is often taboo in the Black community and how unlearning shame, trauma, and cultural expectations can open the door to true self-awareness and healing.

From honoring your body to redefining what happiness looks like, this episode is a reminder that sensual wellness is a birthright—not a luxury. It's a powerful invitation to release what no longer serves you, lean into what brings you joy, and boldly create a life that feels like yours.

Quote from interviewee for callout box: “And so if you are holding on to something that is not serving you. You're only harming yourself, and you're only keeping the thing that you deserve farther away.”

Biggest Takeaways You Don’t Want to Miss:

• Sexual and sensual well-being is essential to a woman’s holistic health.
• Develop self-awareness practices, such as journaling and therapy, to unpack internalized beliefs and trauma.
• Revoke access and remove anyone from your life who does not align with your values and well-being.

Check Out These Highlights:

• An open discussion between Kristian and Barella on why sex is so taboo in the black community.(6:10)
• Barella and Kristian encourage that everyone learns to let go. Living life where you’re attached to too much makes it harder to live in your truth (37:59)  
• Barella goes on to detail about how women can protect themselves from misogyny and disrespect from men. (25:28) 

Quotes:

• “You don’t have to justify your joy to anyone.” – Kristian
• “Sensuality is not shameful—it’s sacred.” Barella
• “ I mean, people are mirrors. They reflect how you treat yourself. So you've got to get your own stuff together before you can go look for anything else. You have to treat yourself kindly. You have to treat yourself amazingly because you're going to attract people who treat you the same way.” - Kristian