Episode 66: Removing Toxicity and Embracing Authenticity: A Conversation with Bola Audena

In this thoughtful conversation, Dr. Kristian and her guest explore the power of presence, intentional living, and the impact of mindset on wellness and relationships. They discuss the importance of slowing down, being fully engaged with family, and how choosing what we consume—whether thoughts, media, or products—shapes our mental and emotional wellbeing. Rooted in community and spirituality, this episode invites listeners to rethink their relationship with time, toxicity, and connection.

Highlight Quote
“Every moment, every something that happens, I say, ‘Kristian, how big of a deal is this? Six months and 12 months, are you going to remember this moment?’ You’re not. So why are you making such a big deal about it right now? Just release it.” [00:44:34]

Callout Quotes

• “Try to only do one thing at a time… when you’re eating a meal, eat that meal. Don’t pull out your phone.” [00:39:53]
  

• “You get to decide. Every scenario that happens in your life—you decide how you’re going to be in control.” [00:45:10]
  

• “I’m on a mission to remove as much toxicity from our life as possible—not only toxic products but toxic thoughts.” [00:53:59]
  

• “Together, we can get it. Not by yourself. It’s math.” [00:59:52]
  
  

Episode Takeaways

• Be intentional with your time and presence; slowing down allows you to engage fully with life and loved ones. [00:37:11 – 00:41:33]
  

• Multitasking often dilutes your focus; practicing single-tasking deepens presence and mindfulness. [00:39:53 – 00:41:01]
  

• Children are keen observers of presence; being distracted impacts relationships and communication. [00:41:14 – 00:42:11]
  

• Your mindset shapes your reality—choosing empowering thoughts leads to better outcomes. [00:44:34 – 00:49:15]
  

• Limiting toxic media and negative input protects mental health and promotes positive living. [00:50:01 – 00:54:30]
  

• Community and connection are essential; asking for help is a strength, not a weakness. [00:56:59 – 01:00:27]
  
  

Top 3 Quotes

1. “You get to decide. Every scenario that happens in your life—you decide how you’re going to be in control.” [00:45:10]
   

2. “I’m on a mission to remove as much toxicity from our life as possible—not only toxic products but toxic thoughts.” [00:53:59]
   

3. “Together, we can get it. Not by yourself. It’s math.” [00:59:52]