Train the Mind to Respond, Not React: My Takeaways from Sister BK Shivani’s Wisdom

In a world that moves fast and feels heavy, I find myself craving tools that help me move through it with intention. I recently listened to Train The Mind To Respond, Not React by Sister BK Shivani, and I walked away with my spirits stirred and my mindset shifted. Her message was clear and simple—but deeply transformative: we are always creating our experience through our responses, and we have more power than we think.

Here are some of my biggest takeaways:

1. We’re Programmed to React—But We Can Reprogram Ourselves

Most of us are conditioned to react automatically to what others say or do. Someone is rude? We get irritated. Someone is distant? We feel hurt. We’ve been taught to mirror energy instead of managing our own. But we don’t have to live that way. Shivani reminds us that every behavior has a reason behind it, and our job is not to judge, but to understand.

2. Response Is a Reflection of Our Inner State

What we think, feel, say, and do—these are all part of our response. And all of them are within our control. That means our peace is not dependent on other people behaving a certain way; it’s rooted in how we choose to respond. Power is choosing the right response when things are not going our way.

3. You Can Live as a Victim or as a Creator

This one hit me. We can carry the weight of what’s been done to us, or we can recognize the strength of who we are and decide how we want to move forward. Even when people wrong us, we can still send blessings and good wishes. That’s not weakness—it’s power. Radiating at a higher frequency in a low-frequency environment is spiritual strength.

4. Words Are Energy—So Speak with Intention

Words like “I’m so busy” seem harmless, but they create a vibration that shapes how we feel. If we constantly speak the language of stress, our minds follow. Busy and easy are both just vibrations—which one are you programming yourself with? Shivani challenges us to watch the words we use, because they silently create our energy.

5. I Am Not Irritated—I Am Creating Irritation

A total reframe. No one can “make” me irritated. When I say “She’s so irritating,” I hand over my peace. Instead, I can own my emotions: “When she behaves that way, I create irritation.” That shift from blame to ownership is subtle—but it’s where freedom begins.

6. Let Go of Labels

Labeling people as “difficult” traps us in cycles of negativity. It creates resistance and judgment. Instead of seeing someone as difficult, we can try to see them as someone in pain, someone on a journey, someone worthy of compassion. Removing labels opens the door to empathy.

7. Lower Vibrations Travel in Packs

I loved this metaphor: lower vibrations are like a family—they don’t show up alone. If you invite irritation, stress, and resentment tend to follow. But when you choose peace, joy, and understanding, they bring their own tribe too. Be mindful of which “family” you’re welcoming.

8. Happiness Is in the Response, Not the Circumstance

True peace doesn’t come from everything going perfectly. It comes from choosing peace when everything is messy. That’s where the power lives. We can't always control the scene, but we can always choose the vibration we bring to it.

9. Protect Your Glass

Sister Shivani gives a beautiful metaphor: if I’m holding a full glass and someone bumps me, whether it spills depends on whether I was mindful of the glass in the first place. In the same way, if my peace is my priority, then I will protect it like that glass. I’ll carry it with care, regardless of how others move around me.

10. Affirmation Is Activation

I walked away from the video with this affirmation ringing in my spirit:

I am a peaceful, happy, loveful, divine, and powerful being.

Say it often. Say it when you wake up, before a tough conversation, in the mirror, in traffic, in conflict. Let it reprogram your responses. Let it become your energy.

Sister BK Shivani didn’t just offer wisdom—she handed over tools for mental and emotional sovereignty. And I’m taking her advice seriously. In a world that constantly pulls at our peace, I’m choosing to pause, breathe, and respond—not react.

Because peace is not passive. It’s a decision.

And I’m making it, over and over again.