Episode 56: The Cost of Being You And Why It’s Worth Paying | Sohjé (So Jay) Johnson

In this powerful and deeply resonant multi-part conversation, Dr. Kristian sits down with Sohjé (So Jay) Johnson—healer, educator, spiritual guide, and founder of a sacred healing practice rooted in ancestral wisdom. Together, they explore the intersections of self-worth, non-linear healing, cultural trauma, Black womanhood, and the audacity of softness. With a calm but fierce voice, Sohjé shares her personal story of unlearning toxic paradigms and embracing intuition, while offering practical tools to reconnect with our bodies, boundaries, and birthright as divine beings. This conversation is a gentle, yet transformative invitation to remember who we are—beyond productivity, pain, or performative power.

Callout Quote
“Softness is not weakness. It is our inheritance—one our grandmothers were denied, but we can reclaim.”

Biggest Takeaways You Don’t Want to Miss:

• Healing isn’t about fixing yourself. Sohjé redefines healing as “coming home” to the truth that you were never broken to begin with.
• Friendship and Utility: When you're everyone's "useful friend," your worth gets tied to what you do more than who you are. This piece challenges that
• Sohjé explains how trauma lives in the body and offers body-based tools to reclaim presence, voice, and internal safety.
• Rest is reparations. Rest is resistance. Rest is remembering.

Check Out These Highlights:

• Why worth is not earned, it’s inherent
  
  
• How Dr. Kristian changed her relationship with failure and the transformation that followed [17:09]
• Tools for embodying softness in a hard world [30:55]
• What Sohjé shares her journey on how she sucessfully created what is is that she desires [54:04]
• How to disrupt generational trauma with gentleness and understanding the effects of health on our parents and grandparents [1:23]

Memorable Quotes:

• “You don’t have to earn rest. You are worthy of it because you exist.”
• "Me being free makes other people realize how not free they are."
• “I am not here to be strong—I am here to be whole.”