You have not, because you ask not

An ongoing fight… no disagreement… no conversation (the power of words) that me and my husband have been having, is that I want him to be a mind reader.

I'm Back

After taking my break from blogging, I am back to welcome y’all on my journey to being happy, healthy, and free.

A Woman's Response to “Straight Black Men Are the White People of Black People”

Black women have not been allowed to be both Black and female. Historically, we have had to choose our race over our gender. We have not talked about our pain in order to protect our Black men's di...

Shea Moisture Revealed the Fraud in Us All

Thanks, Shea Moisture. In light of your recent marketing snafu, I realized that like you, I was a fraud. Maybe I was even worse than Shea Moisture, because I knew I wanted to prioritize Black women...

Thoughts After the Women’s March

So here is how I express my feminism. I have decided to be unapologetically happy. I will love myself unconditionally. I will not be shaped, defined, or moved by the patriarch’s opinion on who I sh...

Living Fearless: FOX News Segment

What makes fear particularly dangerous is that it is driven by beliefs and not by fact. Beliefs are inherently biased, flawed, and situational. Beliefs are shaped by your experiences, your culture,...

The Natural Hair Movement Failed Me

Although I was late to the natural hair movement, when I discovered it in 2013, I thought I had found the golden grail. All I needed to do was co-wash my tresses, use protective styles, and take so...

Need Less: My Journey to Minimalism

My definition of minimalism is simple: it is the art of needing less. Less clothes. Less shoes. Less space. And less from the external environment to make you happy. It’s creating a life that isn’...

Four Ways Millennials Redefine Life

As millennials, we reject conventional wisdom.  We create lives that are built around our lifestyles of traveling, food, family and fun. Not around our careers. We want to live our dream lives now,...

Quit. Go Ahead. It's Okay.

What I didn’t realize then, is that by not quitting, I was failing. I was failing to put myself first. I was failing to follow my dreams. I was failing at having enough confidence to walk in my ow...

My Husband Didn't Make Me Happy

My husband didn’t make me happy, so we divorced. He didn’t make me feel loved, appreciated or valued. I complained... 

Who Am I?

I am multidimensional. I am a professor, entrepreneur, and a blogger. I like to laugh, I love Monopoly, and I have a soft spot for chocolate chip cookies...

Breaking Out of My Box

I was in a box. I had a certain standard to uphold. A certain image to maintain. But, I was tired of trying to live my life within the parameters of these boxes. My boxes were literally starting t...